Make a difference..

I encountered a woman (I would not like to name) a few days back who gave me a glimpse of why exactly I dislike somethings about us as a society.

She said "A daughter's mother is the one who will touch the feet of her son-in-law's mother, not the other way round. The one who marries her daughter will always be inferior" and I lost track of what she said next because I couldn't take my mind of her preposterous declaration!

I already always hated seeing my mother touch my mother-in-law's feet (with no offense to her) despite maa being more than 6 years elder to her.

I'd have been fine if they just greeted each other. I'd have loved it for my mother-in-law to stop maa from doing so at the very first instance. I would have been elated to see them hug each other instead as equals.

While I got snapped out of my over expectation within seconds, I was angry about what this woman in question actually thinks about everyone who has a daughter..

I have been the receiver of critisism myself for being a daughter, I have heard things about do's and don't to be followed by a girl's parents. I've always loathed such conversations where the one who produced a male thinks that just That, makes them superior to the one who produced a female.

How in the world would one explain that??

Daughters are not and never were a liability. I know that's how we were taken to be, I know our grandparents were not happy when we were born but they grew to love us nevertheless because that's what we deserve.

As I write this, I go back to the day when my brother and bhabhi gave us a beautiful daughter. I can not forget the happiness on Maa's face. She ran into the kitchen pulled out a plate and rolling pin from the drawers and started hitting the rolling pin on the plate. This is only done when a boy is born, but she dint care. She was ecstatic and she wanted to show it to the world.

I also recollect how my parents got sweet hampers made for close ones and laddoos for everyone else to be circulated to celebrate the birth of their granddaughter.. 

Your importance has nothing to do with the gender of the child you give birth to. There still exist practices, ideologies and habits that are not just backward but sickening. I could go on and on about them.

For now, I want to keep these emotions and memories with me and pass them on to you. Making a difference starts with us from home.

Cheers!

God bless!!

CHS