Just before starting this one, I went back and looked up at the older posts.. I thought I had written about this.. But I dint find anything that reflected what I have in mind right now.. So here goes..
I wrote about this one in my poems, a few writeups but it's raining all over my insta posts - Love!
Question time : Imagine you never listened to music (romantic/mushy/sad/ heartbreak songs), never watched movies (or clips that give us an idea of what love/ romance is). What would you think love is?
Fresh, cool breeze blowing at your face when he spoke. Violins playing in the background when she walked towards you. Ek ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi ho sakte. The one who saves you from grave danger must be the one you owe your life to. Imagine if you never witnessed these things on screen. What would love mean to you?
Feelings of restlessness (love), thinking about someone always, not able to sleep at night (love), going against your family and friends for someone (love) ready to change your identity, give up all you have (love), not being able to let go even when it hurts so badly (love). Imagine you never came across songs like these. What do you think expression of love would be?
Since very tender ages, we have been shown an image of true love. The one that shows how our soulmate is/should be. How we are to create perfect moment to propose our feelings to someone.
I remember how I used to think when I was an adolescent. The one for me would take efforts and make things special. Roses, candle lights, beach, romantic music - movies have had such a dramatic influence on us.
We tend to have pathetically high parameters while measuring love while actually it can never be measured. We are led to have insane and unfair expectations from our partners that later leads to unnecessary disappointments.
The floral and musical fairytale love story is a farce but a fraud too.. Young tender hearts not only believe it but almost feel a need to live it in their lives. Anything less makes their life and relationships feel like a failure which is inappropriate.
We all believe that true love happens once in our life (this stops us from accepting love more than once), that there is someone out there made only for us (some of us spend our entire lives waiting). We are on a lookout for that one who is our soul mate (and knock on several wrong doors on the way hurting ourselves and many others). Given the already painted picture in our minds, we tend to make mistakes.
Ever been in a situation where your dear friend thinks he/she is in love with you? The one made for us is treated just as a friend. One loves another and another loves another. So much confusion ufff!!
Of course, as we grow older we not only differentiate it from the reality but also accept the truth. Reel versus real is not a short journey but can be heartbreaking and misguiding.
The generation now is smarter and better informed but when it comes to matters of the heart aren't we all the same??? Naive, stupid and vulnerable.
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
