Truth is truth, can it ever be bent or tampered with?? No (we are told). And here I'm talking about Creation of Truth!
After Mr. Harper Lee, Mr. Mark Manson keeps me glued to his work - The subtle art of not giving a F*ck.
I have read it half and started writing this because I came across something very hard to believe.
Apparently our brain has the ability to create memories and sometimes we believe that those things in our created memories have actually happened.
It was because of this phenomena that brains of a lot of people created horrible memories of abuse by male members of their family which led to many lawsuits, many going to prison and in all families getting ruined.. This happened in the 1980's when repressed memory therapy was in practice.
Life dissatisfaction, sensational news and a need to feel a victim to avoid responsibility were all combined in the brains and served as shocking revelations of abuse. Abuse that never happened but knitted by the brain in a way that made the woman believe it is true.
We all are given values and information since childhood. There are barely any gray areas, mostly everything is black and white, wrong and right. Our brains always try to make sense of the current situations based on what we have experienced or based on what we believe is true.
Also we have good and bad relationships with people. The ones we share a good rapport with, are always associated with good memories and vice versa with the others. That is the reason we tend to blame a person for things that he or she might not be responsible for.
It kind of feels comforting to us to say that it is his or her fault while in truth the concerned person might not even be remotely connected to the truth (the one that we believe).
This just a small example from our daily lives. But, imagine how our brain works. I wonder if we could ever measure the true power of our brain!
It can literally make us believe things, curate memories depending on what our mind needs at that particular time. Unconscious desires, current scenario, past experiences and a want to be a part of the (talked about) crowd are the key ingredients to the recipe of this unknown, inexperienced false memory.
Mr. Mansion says perhaps we should trust ourselves less because our hearts and minds are unreliable. Questioning our intentions and motivations more is the answer.
So beware of what you believe to be true, beware of who you think is good or bad, beware of your own memories however pleasing and comforting they are;
your brain might be misleading you.
What we must do for a stress free life, a life where we are capable of tackling challenges is to go by logic. Act according to the situation, express ourselves, own our mistakes and blunders, not to have expectations from dear ones (it burdens relationships) and never be hard on ourselves.
Lets help our brains declutter so even if they have to create memories, they are good ones. The ones that make us and other happy rather than one's that create mountains of troubles to everyone around us.
I hope you had a great festive season. Here's wishing you immense happiness, good health and prosperity in the new year!!
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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