Spousy Treat...

How many of us have seen a totally different person in our spouse post marriage? 

Count me in too✋...

Its been more than 8 years since our marriage and as I mentioned earlier, we were together in college so that makes a total of 15 years of knowing each other but I realised I barely knew him after wedding.

The first thing I noticed in my husband after wedding is that he is super shy. So much so that he barely spoke to me for years in front of his family members (apart from, roti le aao, chai rakh do, of course). I can say he has come half from being shy, does talk to me about cherith and our family in front of everyone but still a long way to go..

2nd, he was secretive, like very very secretive... He did not share anything with me and I did not keep anything from him.. He is like my everyday log book and I am his invisible partner (when it comes to share things in his mind). Work-in-progress here too...

3rd, he has a very witty and wicked sense of humour. I did always want someone who could make me laugh but hubby makes eveyone guffaw (subject of the joke; usually me 🙄) No further comments.

4th, despite being the youngest son at home, he is very responsible. He takes it onto him when things don't go right and tries his best so everyone around is happy. Rare quality in a world where everyone cares for self happiness.

5th he is equally carefree. Point 4 and 5 do sound like an oxymoron. You'd ask, How can someone be responsible and carefree at the same time?? Well, he is the best example. 

He does things the way they should be done but doesn't bother much with minute details like kisne kya socha, kya bola, how will someone react. Basically he carries out his task with determination and avoids drama completely. I, on the other hand used to take every little things way to seriously but this attitude of his has helped me calm down and be happy with little somethings that go unnoticed. 

6th, he is a silencer.. Stop wondering, here's the explanation. This is not just concerning me, but everyone he talks to. You can talk about something all you want but when he opens his mouth, he will say just one thing and the discussion is over. He says it so simply yet so sternly that opposition has to rest its case.

7th, he is a smart altruist. He keeps others before himself, cares for people but never expresses it and does things for them quietly. However, he is also smart enough not to be used, being pushed around or taken for granted.

Can I go on? Yes, but I'd love to enlighten you about other attributes of him in future..

Some of the discoveries were pleasant surprises while others were rather shocking and disappointing.. I do acknowledge that He is my Spousy Treat.. 

I may be on the same page with him sometimes and many other times I would be in a different boat altogether. But I do enjoy his company in each and every way, irrespective of me conveying it or even if I say the complete opposite...

CHEERS! 

GOD BLESS!! 

CHS