It's great to be a parent. From the moment you hold the baby in your hands and see them cuddle in your arms and fall sound asleep like it's the best place in the world to the moment they grow (which is recurring).
In the first year, every month brings in some new changes but they are visible.. The following years, there is indeed much more that happens with the minds of these little menace makers in our lives.
Cherith has been swamping me with questions ever since he was 3, the time he started not just noticing but even observing.
Lately, he has asked me questions like where do babies come from?, why did I get married?, why do I live with his papa rather than live with my mama papa?, why is earth the only place people live in?, why do we have to listen to elders all the time?, why do we have to behave when our elders don't behave the same way?..
His thoughts seem to be at war bombing me without warning. While I'm very glad about the questions, I try my best to answer all of them in the most simplest way so he has them answered and needn't go to anyone else for answers.
In fact I love this process of him doing an internal brainstorming resulting in questions which are a sign of a sharp mind. I must confess I was a question asker myself but I barely got any answers to them.
As I child, I mostly got the same answer "We do it because we are told to" or "That's how it's been" or "Our ancestors set traditions and we follow them". It all meant the same to me but these were not definitely the answers.
Coming back to present, after the lockdown eased up, Cherith got his cycle down and started learning. I was overjoyed to see him have his hands and legs co-ordinated so well that he perfected it in just about 4 months without much falling.
He has now grown tall and the cycle already has to be passed on to a successor. He has been insisting on getting a new one since the seat and handle have been raised to the maximum and it is getting quite uncomfortable for him now. So we agreed to get him a new cycle after his assessments.
He is not too adamant and fussy like many other kids I see around. He is pretty understanding and accepts logic which is a great relief to me as a mother.
So yesterday I was having lunch and he wanted me to play with him. Since his papa was done with lunch, I asked him to take his blocks and make something nice while I finish the chores. I challenged him to compete with papa and the creation I find the best will be rewarded.
They set out to the task and when I came out, I could clearly look at the two robots made of blocks and know who had made which one. I simply pointed at one and said I like this one and I could see his eyes sparkle and say, "I made this mumma".
"Superb" I joined him. "Now tell me what you want as a prize, you can ask for anything" I tempted him.
"I just want papa to play with me for an hour or half an hour everyday, that's all"
Silence...
While he went back to watching his cartoon I was not surprised by his words but shocked by his observation. Those little eyes do see everything but that little mind understands so much more. He evidently sees the lack of time spent with his father but the way he asked for it took my heart away..
When and how do our little munchkins grow up so soon.. Sometime back, he held my finger while walking, some more time back I lifted him while outdoors and some more time back he was in my arms all day cooing and even before that, I could not see him just feel him in me. After all the proximity, now I can put my hand on his shoulder.
While I'm writing this, he is trying to fit in my lap, failing but still trying. I tell him that most of my writeups are filled with him these days and when he grows up, he can read them and know what I feel about him. In my mind I'm thinking these are eternal memories that I will store online for him so he can revisit them anytime, forever..
As for his scrutinizing eyes, I just hope his brain keeps erupting with questions and pray that god gives me the sanity to answer them all in the most creative, satisfying and less intriguing way.
Good luck to all the would be and already parents with the little joys of the greatest treasure of our lives..
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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