How many have watched the movie Thappad?
I watched it last night and at many occasions tears rolled down unapologetically. I felt as if I wasn't in control, I felt heavy as if I was in Amu's shoes.
So firstly I'd request everyone to watch it with family. The movie displays reality, emotions and raw uncorrupted performances in abundance. Not the kinds you should miss.
I was totally into it while watching and once I finished, I seemed to be under a mountain of thoughts. How, why, when, how long.. So many questions hoarding my mind.
All of us know marriage is a lifetime investment, how does one evaluate the share a wife? She leaves behind her world, to make one for someone else. Working tirelessly for everyone's happiness without expecting rewards. Wouldn't it be fair to give her her share of respect and care?
Why are we girls taught to let go our dreams and desires and believe that a husband's success is ours. I wonder many times that I may have persued writing as a career had I not been married.
When do the wants, likes and wishes of others gain dominance on what we like for ourselves. Eating what is left after everyone is done, making dishes that others like, dressing the way others want you to, getting married and having children because 'nahi kiya toh log kya kahenge'
How long are we going to ignore and tolerate unfair things that we feel are nothing but normal? I have found myself and others in a situation where we are treated as nothing more than objects. Ones that can be used for someone else's gain.
I'd like to believe that relationships are different in today's times. There's equality, respect, care, communication - all of which were absolete in lives of our ancestors. Previously, wives were supposed to do what was asked of them without complaints and questions. Not surprising to still find people like that.
Though we do have a few positive changes, the truth is that there are a lot of prejudices that are brushed away as little nothings..
Here are a few personal examples
A man says "Auraton ki kamayi ghar mein nahi chahiye, main kamaunga tum ghar sambhalo"
Another man says "Ek baccha hi toh paida kiya hai, usme kya badi baat Hai"
A woman says "Beti tum kaam mat karo, sasural mein karti hi toh ho, bahu hai na, kar legi"
Another woman says "Bahu saara din bethi rehti hai, kaam kya hai ghar mein"
"Beta saara din kaam karke thak jaata hai use sone do, tumhe jaldi uthna chahiye"
"Tum kitchen mein kya kar rahe ho/ Yeh kaam tum kyu kar rahe ho, bahu kahan hai?"
These are just a few, I can write few more articles if I go on to reveal more of such quotations.
Its not everyone's forte to read between the lines so I don't blame you if you did not understand what the above lines truly mean.
I hope that women don't remain the givers in relationships. I wish that someday, we don't say "maine apna mann maara hai"
These unfair things are almost invisible but they have grave repercussions.
Look out for each other and please speak up when you feel something is unfair. You might just inspire others to be fair..
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
I watched it last night and at many occasions tears rolled down unapologetically. I felt as if I wasn't in control, I felt heavy as if I was in Amu's shoes.
So firstly I'd request everyone to watch it with family. The movie displays reality, emotions and raw uncorrupted performances in abundance. Not the kinds you should miss.
I was totally into it while watching and once I finished, I seemed to be under a mountain of thoughts. How, why, when, how long.. So many questions hoarding my mind.
All of us know marriage is a lifetime investment, how does one evaluate the share a wife? She leaves behind her world, to make one for someone else. Working tirelessly for everyone's happiness without expecting rewards. Wouldn't it be fair to give her her share of respect and care?
Why are we girls taught to let go our dreams and desires and believe that a husband's success is ours. I wonder many times that I may have persued writing as a career had I not been married.
When do the wants, likes and wishes of others gain dominance on what we like for ourselves. Eating what is left after everyone is done, making dishes that others like, dressing the way others want you to, getting married and having children because 'nahi kiya toh log kya kahenge'
How long are we going to ignore and tolerate unfair things that we feel are nothing but normal? I have found myself and others in a situation where we are treated as nothing more than objects. Ones that can be used for someone else's gain.
I'd like to believe that relationships are different in today's times. There's equality, respect, care, communication - all of which were absolete in lives of our ancestors. Previously, wives were supposed to do what was asked of them without complaints and questions. Not surprising to still find people like that.
Though we do have a few positive changes, the truth is that there are a lot of prejudices that are brushed away as little nothings..
Here are a few personal examples
A man says "Auraton ki kamayi ghar mein nahi chahiye, main kamaunga tum ghar sambhalo"
Another man says "Ek baccha hi toh paida kiya hai, usme kya badi baat Hai"
A woman says "Beti tum kaam mat karo, sasural mein karti hi toh ho, bahu hai na, kar legi"
Another woman says "Bahu saara din bethi rehti hai, kaam kya hai ghar mein"
"Beta saara din kaam karke thak jaata hai use sone do, tumhe jaldi uthna chahiye"
"Tum kitchen mein kya kar rahe ho/ Yeh kaam tum kyu kar rahe ho, bahu kahan hai?"
These are just a few, I can write few more articles if I go on to reveal more of such quotations.
Its not everyone's forte to read between the lines so I don't blame you if you did not understand what the above lines truly mean.
I hope that women don't remain the givers in relationships. I wish that someday, we don't say "maine apna mann maara hai"
These unfair things are almost invisible but they have grave repercussions.
Look out for each other and please speak up when you feel something is unfair. You might just inspire others to be fair..
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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