Cherry "Do you want to be called a good boy or a bad boy?" I ask Cherith. "Good boy mumma" he replies sincerely..
Sometimes I find myself repeatedly asking the same question. Moreso not because of cherith himself but because of what others will think or say about him.
We have always been taught to be the good one. Good in studies, in manners, in communication, in showcasing abilities. While I agree, there is nothing wrong in all of the above, I honestly feel that this whole good boy bad boy thing goes over the top sometimes.
Everyone can not be good always, everywhere, with everyone. There is no need to either. Being good is fine but it's not all that you need to be.
Infact, we realize as we grow up that many times being good to others means a great personal loss. So it's perfectly alright to be bad as long as we don't hurt anyone else.
Come to think of it neutrally, it is totally subjective. My understanding of good can be totally different from that of cherith, hubby, my family, siblings, friends or anyone else. We can not deny that all of us look at things individually, mainly focusing on what's beneficial to us out of it.
That is the reason why parents or society doesn't approve of someone people who are in love. That is why girls are restricted to walk out of homes at night or dress a certain way. That is why marriages that have no love and trust stay alive irrespective of the fact that neither of the two is happy. That is why children are asked to learn and write abcd like everyone else does ignoring the thought that they may have their own version to education.
So I calmed myself down and am trying to tone it down. I do not want to impose my interpretation of good and bad as I fear that his true self may overshadowed when I ask him to behave or do things a particular way.
He is a child after all and he will learn things in time, I don't want him to loose his mischief, his naivety and his creativity just so he can become "My Good Boy"
While I do want him to respect elders and women, I do want him to restrain from lying and cheating, I also want him to follow his heart, make mistakes, fall and get up.
Being selfish is food for soul sometimes, being straightforward is fine as long as you are true to yourself. Fighting for your love and standing by someone who needs it is okay even there are others in disagreement. Defying a few is fair when your actions mean to benefit a larger group.
Kabhi Kabhi Auron k liye bura hona apne liye sabse accha hota hai...
Good and bad may have many interpretations, let us all keep our variations as long as we all care for each other, appreciate each other and continue to illuminate lives in our own ways...
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
Sometimes I find myself repeatedly asking the same question. Moreso not because of cherith himself but because of what others will think or say about him.
We have always been taught to be the good one. Good in studies, in manners, in communication, in showcasing abilities. While I agree, there is nothing wrong in all of the above, I honestly feel that this whole good boy bad boy thing goes over the top sometimes.
Everyone can not be good always, everywhere, with everyone. There is no need to either. Being good is fine but it's not all that you need to be.
Infact, we realize as we grow up that many times being good to others means a great personal loss. So it's perfectly alright to be bad as long as we don't hurt anyone else.
Come to think of it neutrally, it is totally subjective. My understanding of good can be totally different from that of cherith, hubby, my family, siblings, friends or anyone else. We can not deny that all of us look at things individually, mainly focusing on what's beneficial to us out of it.
That is the reason why parents or society doesn't approve of someone people who are in love. That is why girls are restricted to walk out of homes at night or dress a certain way. That is why marriages that have no love and trust stay alive irrespective of the fact that neither of the two is happy. That is why children are asked to learn and write abcd like everyone else does ignoring the thought that they may have their own version to education.
So I calmed myself down and am trying to tone it down. I do not want to impose my interpretation of good and bad as I fear that his true self may overshadowed when I ask him to behave or do things a particular way.
He is a child after all and he will learn things in time, I don't want him to loose his mischief, his naivety and his creativity just so he can become "My Good Boy"
While I do want him to respect elders and women, I do want him to restrain from lying and cheating, I also want him to follow his heart, make mistakes, fall and get up.
Being selfish is food for soul sometimes, being straightforward is fine as long as you are true to yourself. Fighting for your love and standing by someone who needs it is okay even there are others in disagreement. Defying a few is fair when your actions mean to benefit a larger group.
Kabhi Kabhi Auron k liye bura hona apne liye sabse accha hota hai...
Good and bad may have many interpretations, let us all keep our variations as long as we all care for each other, appreciate each other and continue to illuminate lives in our own ways...
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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