Parenting makes us do so much!!
From changing our habits, to planning routine. From keeping an eye on the child's behaviour to being vary of our own while they are around. From writing once a week to once a month and then just a few in a year...
Well, I don't really mean to blame it on anyone but there are so many things that you are clustered with and trust me, being a parent is one job you can not master for years.
As I said earlier, it's a two way learning process. We as parents and they as kids learn and grow and become better together.
I chose to write today to permanently save this one small anecdote. It happened yesterday but I want the feel of it to stay with me forever.
So the week that just got over was Cherith's assesment week at school. For the first time oral and written assessment was done during the same week. We did our practice and revisions everyday and I knew he would have done well.
PTM was scheduled yesterday and I hate to be late. So I got him ready and told him I'll finish cleaning the bathroom and then we will go up to have breakfast before leaving for school.
"Mumma, don't wet your saree while cleaning" he said. "There will be water, might get a little damp" I replied teasingly looking at him.
"Change your saree if it gets dirty, wear another nice one" he went on to say.
"We are just going to your school laddu" I played along.
He rested his hand on my shoulder, looked down "Koi bhi aap pe hasega toh mujhe accha nahi lagega" he said and smiled. I could see his eyes gleaming and my eyes filling up.
I just cannot explain how those words felt. It touched me that my baby loved me, it moved me that he felt that way but more than everything I was happy I was going the right way as far as parenting was concerned. There many such little things and little sweet gestures from Cherith that are so touching, they just make my day.
On the contrary, there are incidents and talks of how children are getting insensitive towards parents and elders. They refuse to help, do any work, back answer, disobey even rebel. Children are getting less emotional, more open and even more detached.
In all of this, when a four year old shows this kind of respect and sensitivity, I feel I am doing some sensible job.
We headed for school and with all answers written well, a check in all assesment parameters and an A in all developmental aspects, I was rejoicing as a mom.
Also every PTM, I make it a point to ask his teacher how he behaves in class. The teacher says he is naughty but that never troubles her or other kids in class.
At home, I tell Cherry "I would not mind you scoring a few less marks or getting a few lesser grades but I will not tolerate bad behaviour come what may. I want you to be polite, respect others, help and share".
Too much load a little heart you might wonder but I feel its never too early to imbibe good things. Afterall a good seed will become a fruitful green plant and a stronger tree.
This also throws me back to a roadies real heroes auditions of a girl called Bhargasetu Sharma. The girl is 21, has won bravery awards, she is into rescuing and sheltering pets and abandoned animals and was a real hero in the last season of roadies.
Neha Dhupia asked her if life had changed after all the awards and she said "not really" and to that Nikhil said "you have no idea how happy that answer of yours has made me"
Sandeep Singh added that these things come with the upbringing and I could not agree more.
In this racing and pacing world, it is so difficult to keep children grounded. Truth, Honesty, Love, Loyalty, Compassion, being Humble, are all felt and nurtured rather than being taught.
We need not strive to make them toppers or champions but I strongly give credence to transferring our treasure of values so these little ones grow up to be best human beings and eventually be successful.
May there be light in all our hearts to guide our future generations to a brighter tomorrow. And while we are all at it, let's also continue to cherish our golden days and relive them with our munchkins.
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!
CHS
From changing our habits, to planning routine. From keeping an eye on the child's behaviour to being vary of our own while they are around. From writing once a week to once a month and then just a few in a year...
Well, I don't really mean to blame it on anyone but there are so many things that you are clustered with and trust me, being a parent is one job you can not master for years.
As I said earlier, it's a two way learning process. We as parents and they as kids learn and grow and become better together.
I chose to write today to permanently save this one small anecdote. It happened yesterday but I want the feel of it to stay with me forever.
So the week that just got over was Cherith's assesment week at school. For the first time oral and written assessment was done during the same week. We did our practice and revisions everyday and I knew he would have done well.
PTM was scheduled yesterday and I hate to be late. So I got him ready and told him I'll finish cleaning the bathroom and then we will go up to have breakfast before leaving for school.
"Mumma, don't wet your saree while cleaning" he said. "There will be water, might get a little damp" I replied teasingly looking at him.
"Change your saree if it gets dirty, wear another nice one" he went on to say.
"We are just going to your school laddu" I played along.
He rested his hand on my shoulder, looked down "Koi bhi aap pe hasega toh mujhe accha nahi lagega" he said and smiled. I could see his eyes gleaming and my eyes filling up.
I just cannot explain how those words felt. It touched me that my baby loved me, it moved me that he felt that way but more than everything I was happy I was going the right way as far as parenting was concerned. There many such little things and little sweet gestures from Cherith that are so touching, they just make my day.
On the contrary, there are incidents and talks of how children are getting insensitive towards parents and elders. They refuse to help, do any work, back answer, disobey even rebel. Children are getting less emotional, more open and even more detached.
In all of this, when a four year old shows this kind of respect and sensitivity, I feel I am doing some sensible job.
We headed for school and with all answers written well, a check in all assesment parameters and an A in all developmental aspects, I was rejoicing as a mom.
Also every PTM, I make it a point to ask his teacher how he behaves in class. The teacher says he is naughty but that never troubles her or other kids in class.
At home, I tell Cherry "I would not mind you scoring a few less marks or getting a few lesser grades but I will not tolerate bad behaviour come what may. I want you to be polite, respect others, help and share".
Too much load a little heart you might wonder but I feel its never too early to imbibe good things. Afterall a good seed will become a fruitful green plant and a stronger tree.
This also throws me back to a roadies real heroes auditions of a girl called Bhargasetu Sharma. The girl is 21, has won bravery awards, she is into rescuing and sheltering pets and abandoned animals and was a real hero in the last season of roadies.
Neha Dhupia asked her if life had changed after all the awards and she said "not really" and to that Nikhil said "you have no idea how happy that answer of yours has made me"
Sandeep Singh added that these things come with the upbringing and I could not agree more.
In this racing and pacing world, it is so difficult to keep children grounded. Truth, Honesty, Love, Loyalty, Compassion, being Humble, are all felt and nurtured rather than being taught.
We need not strive to make them toppers or champions but I strongly give credence to transferring our treasure of values so these little ones grow up to be best human beings and eventually be successful.
May there be light in all our hearts to guide our future generations to a brighter tomorrow. And while we are all at it, let's also continue to cherish our golden days and relive them with our munchkins.
CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!
CHS
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