How often have we done something and regretted later?? Regret comes as an after effect of anger. Many times we know what we are doing isnt the right thing but sometimes rage overtakes our conscience.
I was of the view that anger is a part of adults only. That children are away from the cons of it until I was proved wrong recently.
A few months ago, I noticed negative changes in Cherith. He would disobey, do only what he wants to, ignore anyone talking to him and when persuaded would not hesitate from hitting, kicking or screaming.
One major change I brought in myself is when he talks, I pay full attention to him and try to comprehend. In return he is all ears when I talk. Communucation is a virtue..
The process will take time but I can see the results. I wish every parent would undertsand that use of power on children spoils their future forever.
If only every kid born would have been taught how to channelize their energy in the right direction, many people would have been safe and alive. After all, a crime may have many reasons but it all starts with anger and the incapability to overpower rage.
A moment of rage destroys years of hardwork. Its like a volcano. The measure of damage can only be done when it cools. Our anger not only spoils our relationships but many times hurts our personal growth and tarnishes mind, body and soul.
Anger might bring the end of the world before nature could. Lets throw rage out of our lives and bring in positivity and peace.
People sparkling with smiles would be more successful. We would have more believers and go getters versus less doubters, more lovers less haters, more achievers and lesser morose, more life givers and less killers.
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
I was of the view that anger is a part of adults only. That children are away from the cons of it until I was proved wrong recently.
A few months ago, I noticed negative changes in Cherith. He would disobey, do only what he wants to, ignore anyone talking to him and when persuaded would not hesitate from hitting, kicking or screaming.
This otherwise quiet, smart, thoughtful, sensitive and happy boy would never act in such an awful manner.
Though hubby assured me I was doing well as a parent, a question always hindered my thoughts. "What it is that im doing wrong? Was I making a mistake somewhere?" I was deeply saddened but had to do something about it.
I noticed Cherith's behaviour all day. He would be his usual self but when things din't work his way, he would go rogue. A big reason for that negative behaviour was his inability to control his anger.
I have to confess there have been a lot of things on my mind and I would be annoyed at times. Cherith would be at the receiving end when I fumed. May be that's when he imbibed the idea that it was alright to get angry when things dont work our way.
I failed to realize the effects of my actions on him. Though I never meant any harm, unintentionally it did harm his naive little mind.
So I pledged to be as calm as possible, stay happy and adopt different methods of doing daily chores with him. I started getting him involved when he din't let me do things alone.
I let him do things his way at times and introduced fun things every couple of days. I try to make him agree at times and at times just let him be unburdened. I treat him as a baby sometimes and as an equal when we become partners in crime.
Motherhood is a learning experience both for mother and child. Now, I and cherry are both happier, calmer. He still gets annoyed but now, instead using my motherly authority, I try to understand him and try to pacify him. With both are behaviours inproving, he is a happy kid and I am a content mom.
I have to confess there have been a lot of things on my mind and I would be annoyed at times. Cherith would be at the receiving end when I fumed. May be that's when he imbibed the idea that it was alright to get angry when things dont work our way.
I failed to realize the effects of my actions on him. Though I never meant any harm, unintentionally it did harm his naive little mind.
So I pledged to be as calm as possible, stay happy and adopt different methods of doing daily chores with him. I started getting him involved when he din't let me do things alone.
I let him do things his way at times and introduced fun things every couple of days. I try to make him agree at times and at times just let him be unburdened. I treat him as a baby sometimes and as an equal when we become partners in crime.
Motherhood is a learning experience both for mother and child. Now, I and cherry are both happier, calmer. He still gets annoyed but now, instead using my motherly authority, I try to understand him and try to pacify him. With both are behaviours inproving, he is a happy kid and I am a content mom.
One major change I brought in myself is when he talks, I pay full attention to him and try to comprehend. In return he is all ears when I talk. Communucation is a virtue..
The process will take time but I can see the results. I wish every parent would undertsand that use of power on children spoils their future forever.
If only every kid born would have been taught how to channelize their energy in the right direction, many people would have been safe and alive. After all, a crime may have many reasons but it all starts with anger and the incapability to overpower rage.
A moment of rage destroys years of hardwork. Its like a volcano. The measure of damage can only be done when it cools. Our anger not only spoils our relationships but many times hurts our personal growth and tarnishes mind, body and soul.
Anger might bring the end of the world before nature could. Lets throw rage out of our lives and bring in positivity and peace.
People sparkling with smiles would be more successful. We would have more believers and go getters versus less doubters, more lovers less haters, more achievers and lesser morose, more life givers and less killers.
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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