How many laws do you remember to have come across??
Laws of nature, laws of attraction, laws of gravity, thermodynamics, laws of the constitution, laws of exponents, laws of motion, reflection ...... phew! I dont think i can cover everything here let alone finding flaws in them...
This one is about flaws in the laws that are most generic, visible and easily flammable and most vulnerable; daughter-in-laws..
A few points that bother me:
A few points that bother me:
Firstly, Son-in-laws get an overtly special treatment. They are welcome everytime they walk into their wife's home, showered with so much respect, care and love that every daughter-in-law would be jealous. Why is that kind of treatment not given to us?
Infact we leave our clan behind to join yours, you should not only be thankful but also even more supportive towards us.
Second, Mothers want their son-in-laws to always stand by their daughter, support her, love her, care for her, encourage her, understand her and never leave her side. Predictably fair.
Why do the same mothers behave differently when sons treat their wives that very same way? Isn't it simple logic that what you want for your daughter is what someone else wants for their daughter too? Common sense is so uncommon!
Third, The ideology that you need to control daughter-in-law, else she would fragment the family. I do not understand where this mediocrity comes from but this is totally untrue. We young women do understand the importance of togetherness.
Fourth, daughter-in-law is always wrong. As you can see, we are humans just like you. We have an opinion, a point of view and we do like to take a stand. Doesn't mean we are at fault for speaking our mind. Take it or leave it.
Fifth, Mother-in-law is a better mother. Being a mother in itself is an achievement. You can't say who has accomplished more or less, sooner or later, with flying colours or just managed to pass. Every mother knows what's best for the child and always works towards the same.
Sixth, Daughter-in-law should always think about others first. I unapologetically disagree. We cannot take care of anyone by ignoring ourselves. A plant needs daily inputs of sunlight, water and air, only then will it deliver blooming flowers and nourishing fruits.
Few humble points to be noted:
A Daughter-in-law do not want a share of your property, she wants a share of your love.
She is not robots that is insensitive towards cold behaviours. Please treat her with some warmth.
Spending time with her husband is not a crime. You brought her home to share a life with him. A little alone time would not do any harm, she is entitled to that space.
There are times when she is disinterested in daily chores. Dont misunderstand her to be careless, just give her some time.
She may not be born in this house but is undoubtedly reborn as a wife and mother. She is trying her best to play all roles well.
She may not say it but she terribly misses her parents and siblings. Empathize with her and let the doors of both homes be open for her at all times.
Finding flaws is always the easy thing to do. A little care, a little encouragement, a few advices, a few experiences, an open mind and a big heart would actually be beneficial because a rotting tree can never give healthy fruits. Lets work towards this to make our lives stress free, more productive and most blissful...
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
Infact we leave our clan behind to join yours, you should not only be thankful but also even more supportive towards us.
Second, Mothers want their son-in-laws to always stand by their daughter, support her, love her, care for her, encourage her, understand her and never leave her side. Predictably fair.
Why do the same mothers behave differently when sons treat their wives that very same way? Isn't it simple logic that what you want for your daughter is what someone else wants for their daughter too? Common sense is so uncommon!
Third, The ideology that you need to control daughter-in-law, else she would fragment the family. I do not understand where this mediocrity comes from but this is totally untrue. We young women do understand the importance of togetherness.
Fourth, daughter-in-law is always wrong. As you can see, we are humans just like you. We have an opinion, a point of view and we do like to take a stand. Doesn't mean we are at fault for speaking our mind. Take it or leave it.
Fifth, Mother-in-law is a better mother. Being a mother in itself is an achievement. You can't say who has accomplished more or less, sooner or later, with flying colours or just managed to pass. Every mother knows what's best for the child and always works towards the same.
Sixth, Daughter-in-law should always think about others first. I unapologetically disagree. We cannot take care of anyone by ignoring ourselves. A plant needs daily inputs of sunlight, water and air, only then will it deliver blooming flowers and nourishing fruits.
Few humble points to be noted:
A Daughter-in-law do not want a share of your property, she wants a share of your love.
She is not robots that is insensitive towards cold behaviours. Please treat her with some warmth.
Spending time with her husband is not a crime. You brought her home to share a life with him. A little alone time would not do any harm, she is entitled to that space.
There are times when she is disinterested in daily chores. Dont misunderstand her to be careless, just give her some time.
She may not be born in this house but is undoubtedly reborn as a wife and mother. She is trying her best to play all roles well.
She may not say it but she terribly misses her parents and siblings. Empathize with her and let the doors of both homes be open for her at all times.
Finding flaws is always the easy thing to do. A little care, a little encouragement, a few advices, a few experiences, an open mind and a big heart would actually be beneficial because a rotting tree can never give healthy fruits. Lets work towards this to make our lives stress free, more productive and most blissful...
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
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