The language..

I visited a home for special children 2 weeks ago. It was just a visit to donate some eatables and come back home.

It was a place that housed 30 differently abled girls managed by nuns. I walked to common hall and saw a sister helping an elderly woman whose tongue hung outside her mouth. 

I turned around to walk outside as I dint want to barge into their rooms uninvited. I found a girl of about 13 years of age who did not know what was going on. She simply giggled always. Then there was another one who was keen to see new people, she quietly and quizzically followed them. 

There were one who some cluelessly looking at the sky. One who wanted to say something but words just got blurted out in a manner no one understood. One who played with her hair, one who stared without reason.

There was a two year old girl in the hands of one of the nuns. "What's her name?" I asked sister. "Swetha" sister replied.  "Hi swetha" I waved at the girl and she smiled. 

Even before I could say something else, she hopped and jumped towards me. As I held her in my arms, she looked at me quizzically, then smiled and then gave me a flying kiss. 

She then turned to sister and gestured that she would go with me. Everyone was surprised as the girl happily pulled one more of her companions by the hand and waved everyone meaning the two would be leaving with me. 

Despite many attempts by the three nuns who stood there, swetha refused to go back. She enjoyed being in my arms as I reckon Cherith loved. Her gleaming eyes and sparkling smile melted my heart.

She held on to me so tight that it felt as if I was her mother and she met me after being lost. The feeling was simply inexplicable. 

The sisters finally took swetha back as she made faces and still continued to blow flying kisses at me. I smiled back and promised to come to meet her again. 

That girl, being so little gave me the so much joy. It's strange how a meeting of a few minutes could be so impactful.

I walked back with a smiling face, ecstatic mind and overwhelmed soul. It reminded me of the words I read somewhere when in school 'The language of humanity knows no religion"

I do not know where shwetha came from, I dont know her condition, I dont know her progress or anything else about her. All I know is that she is one girl I would never forget because she made me feel alive. 

That short encounter filled me with so much unconditional love that I am bound to go back and meet her whenever I can.

We have all forgotten the feeling of pure love that comes only from the heart, not from need. 

I would like to tell you to visit and orphanage or an old age home and spend sometime with them. It is ok if you do not take anything along. There are many who come, donate things and leave. There are very few who give them the most precious gift, time. 

Many tell us to look at the unprivileged ones for us to realize how fortunate we are. I would say being around such special people decodes the true self that is within us. It lightens our burdened brains and lightens our dark lives. 

You will return with an amazing feeling you never thought could be for real. That is something each one of us should experience atleast once before we totally die. 

CHEERS!

GOD BLESS!!

CHS

Flaws in the Laws...

How many laws do you remember to have come across??

Laws of nature, laws of attraction, laws of gravity, thermodynamics, laws of the constitution, laws of exponents, laws of motion, reflection ...... phew! I dont think i can cover everything here let alone finding flaws in them... 

This one is about flaws in the laws that are most generic, visible and easily flammable and most vulnerable; daughter-in-laws..

A few points that bother me:

Firstly, Son-in-laws get an overtly special treatment. They are welcome everytime they walk into their wife's home, showered with so much respect, care and love that every daughter-in-law would be jealous. Why is that kind of treatment not given to us?

Infact we leave our clan behind to join yours, you should not only be thankful but also even more supportive towards us.

Second, Mothers want their son-in-laws to always stand by their daughter, support her, love her, care for her, encourage her,  understand her and never leave her side. Predictably fair.

Why do the same mothers behave differently when sons treat their wives that very same way? Isn't it simple logic that what you want for your daughter is what someone else wants for their daughter too? Common sense is so uncommon!

Third, The ideology that you need to control daughter-in-law, else she would fragment the family. I do not understand where this mediocrity comes from but this is totally untrue. We young women do understand the importance of togetherness.

Fourth, daughter-in-law is always wrong. As you can see, we are humans just like you. We have an opinion, a point of view and we do like to take a stand. Doesn't mean we are at fault for speaking our mind. Take it or leave it.

Fifth, Mother-in-law is a better mother. Being a mother in itself is an achievement. You can't say who has accomplished more or less, sooner or later, with flying colours or just managed to pass. Every mother knows what's best for the child and always works towards the same.

Sixth, Daughter-in-law should always think about others first. I unapologetically disagree. We cannot take care of anyone by ignoring ourselves. A plant needs daily inputs of sunlight, water and air, only then will it deliver blooming flowers and nourishing fruits.

Few humble points to be noted:

A Daughter-in-law do not want a share of your property, she wants a share of your love.

She is not robots that is insensitive towards cold behaviours. Please treat her with some warmth.

Spending time with her husband is not a crime. You brought her home to share a life with him. A little alone time would not do any harm, she is entitled to that space.

There are times when she is disinterested in daily chores. Dont misunderstand her to be careless, just give her some time.

She may not be born in this house but is undoubtedly reborn as a wife and mother. She is trying her best to play all roles well.

She may not say it but she terribly misses her parents and siblings. Empathize with her and let the doors of both homes be open for her at all times.

Finding flaws is always the easy thing to do. A little care, a little encouragement, a few advices, a few experiences, an open mind and a big heart would actually be beneficial because a rotting tree can never give healthy fruits. Lets work towards this to make our lives stress free, more productive and most blissful...


CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!

CHS

My Karma...

Samavatsari Mahaparv... The king of Jain festival, it is the festival of forgiveness.. 

There are so many facets to these eight days. Fasts empower our mind, Bhakti induces new energy to worship lord with more zeal. Pratikraman enables us to rewind, rethink the deeds done, accept mistakes, ask for forgiveness and promise never to repeat them again. Pravachan gives an insight to the lives of tirthankars and reaffirms how jains should lead their lives.

The way of live, the habits to imbibe and teachings to follow; all not only have religious contentment but also scientific validation. 

For example dining before sunset is the best way to keep body fit. Drinking boiled water, and fasting help detox. Various asanas during pratikaman are a yoga session in itself, dhyan helps develop the habit of silence thus facilitating meditation.. All in all this multi dimensional phenomenon enables a 360° purification of mind, body and soul.

Over and above all of this, the one aspect that I am not only fond of but also proud about is the act of forgiving all beings and asking for forgiveness from all beings.. 

This is not just any other ritual, it is a filter..

Karma is said to be the base of all our lives. Good or bad, right or wrong everything is a result of the choices we make and actions we take. What goes around definitely comes around therefore, there is no need to be over joyous in merry times and no use of being sorrowful during testing times.. 

I am of the view that owning up is equally significant. Everything that has happened, everything that is going on is a result of my deeds. 

Most of quarrels, heartbreaks and disappointments crop up because we expect things from some other person. Simply acknowledging the fact that this particular event took place as a reward for my doing, solves the most complex of problems. 

Im am happy because of me, I am in a mess because of me and I am out of it because of me is what we should practice telling ourselves every single day. 

Eventually, we won't grunt for too long for failing and will start working towards getting better. This will detangle relations and infuse strength in bonds..

Evaluate yourself, healthify your body, empower your mind, elevate the class of your soul and enhance the quality of life..


CHEERS!!
GOD BLESS!!


CHS