I got back to my reading spree recently with Jeffery Archer's 'Matter of Honur' that sat on my bookshelf and longed to be picked up.
Soon I ordered 3 more and have already finished Jeffery Archer's Clifton Chronicles part 1 and Chetan Bhagat's The girl in room 105.
What caught my attention while reading the synopsis of the last book was that it was not a love story. It was an unlove story...
So I had to read it to know what it is that one can actually do to get over a broken relationship. The beginning was a usual guy trying to forget the only girl he had immensely loved. She moved on, he did not.
A series of drunk dialling episodes and texting followed asking the girl to get back. The story takes a drastic turn which I can not talk about as it would just kill the interest of anyone of you wanting to give it a read. So go ahead...
I had actually expected it to be a story where the broken one would try all he could to forget, get over or even hate his ex. He might have called names and tried to insult the other guy but could simply not resist looking at the pictures of his love and revisiting the moments they spent together. Everything he saw, did, ate; everywhere he went, he was reminded of her..
I related to him... Though I could guess what would have led to the twist, I was wanting to read a more clearer understanding of how one would learn to unlove..
We fall in love quite too easily, we are taught to hate even more easily but in between these two extreme emotions, there does exist a midway. It is indeed a need for each one of us to practice that.
Remember how there is one thing we have loved too much during our childhood? May be a toy, a book, a piece of clothing, stationary, it could be anything...
Sany was obsessed with her blanket, she slept with that in her hands even when it was nothing more than shreds..
Imagine the blanket was a relationship and now visualize the consequences of holding on to a bond that is now only tatters. While it does not give us any love, it also takes away a lot of our energy, our ability to think logically and most of all our precious precious time..
After reading the book, I smiled and said to myself "I unlove all the things and people that I dont have anymore. May the good things I learnt stay with me and the ones that disrupt my happy state be gone"
Sounds like a mantra...
This is a generation of people exposed to so many things. People look for love through artificial means, yet human emotions are valued measly.
Love is no doubt important, hate is of no significance but in my view, learning to unlove is of utmost essence.
So we may have helped people make friends and find love a lot of time, let's make a first attempt at spreading the idea of unloving someone that is no more available.
Of course it is thought impossible by the one who is hurt but it is for us to be there and make sure he or she is over that one that thing that hinders his or her view of the rest of the world.
This simple step could perhaps save a lot of girls being victims to acid attacks, rapes and murders and also a lot of boys from being victims to cheating, violence and criminal activities at large.
We have learnt too much is too bad. It's time to apply it to the emotion that needs it most - Love. Do not love someone so much that it deters yourself, your personality and your growth. Let's simply learn to Unlove...
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
Soon I ordered 3 more and have already finished Jeffery Archer's Clifton Chronicles part 1 and Chetan Bhagat's The girl in room 105.
What caught my attention while reading the synopsis of the last book was that it was not a love story. It was an unlove story...
So I had to read it to know what it is that one can actually do to get over a broken relationship. The beginning was a usual guy trying to forget the only girl he had immensely loved. She moved on, he did not.
A series of drunk dialling episodes and texting followed asking the girl to get back. The story takes a drastic turn which I can not talk about as it would just kill the interest of anyone of you wanting to give it a read. So go ahead...
I had actually expected it to be a story where the broken one would try all he could to forget, get over or even hate his ex. He might have called names and tried to insult the other guy but could simply not resist looking at the pictures of his love and revisiting the moments they spent together. Everything he saw, did, ate; everywhere he went, he was reminded of her..
I related to him... Though I could guess what would have led to the twist, I was wanting to read a more clearer understanding of how one would learn to unlove..
We fall in love quite too easily, we are taught to hate even more easily but in between these two extreme emotions, there does exist a midway. It is indeed a need for each one of us to practice that.
Remember how there is one thing we have loved too much during our childhood? May be a toy, a book, a piece of clothing, stationary, it could be anything...
Sany was obsessed with her blanket, she slept with that in her hands even when it was nothing more than shreds..
Imagine the blanket was a relationship and now visualize the consequences of holding on to a bond that is now only tatters. While it does not give us any love, it also takes away a lot of our energy, our ability to think logically and most of all our precious precious time..
After reading the book, I smiled and said to myself "I unlove all the things and people that I dont have anymore. May the good things I learnt stay with me and the ones that disrupt my happy state be gone"
Sounds like a mantra...
This is a generation of people exposed to so many things. People look for love through artificial means, yet human emotions are valued measly.
Love is no doubt important, hate is of no significance but in my view, learning to unlove is of utmost essence.
So we may have helped people make friends and find love a lot of time, let's make a first attempt at spreading the idea of unloving someone that is no more available.
Of course it is thought impossible by the one who is hurt but it is for us to be there and make sure he or she is over that one that thing that hinders his or her view of the rest of the world.
This simple step could perhaps save a lot of girls being victims to acid attacks, rapes and murders and also a lot of boys from being victims to cheating, violence and criminal activities at large.
We have learnt too much is too bad. It's time to apply it to the emotion that needs it most - Love. Do not love someone so much that it deters yourself, your personality and your growth. Let's simply learn to Unlove...
CHEERS!
GOD BLESS!!
CHS
