I am mesmerized by the performances of kids on Super Dancer that airs on Sony TV.
It was grandparents week this time and one of the contestants performed for his grandfather who is not alive in person but very much alive in his memories and feel.
Seems like he was just 3 years old when his grandpa bid adieu and he barely remembers things about him but missed him immensely. After all the emotional tides subsided, Shilpa shetty quoted someone who had given her strength during her similar loss..
"Parents are like trees that give fruits and grandparents are like banyan tree that gives shade. Parents do give the children everything required to emerge and grow. When the shade of the banyan tree isn't there, that's when we feel the heat."
That whole performance and dialogue exchange made me really emotional and I missed my father in law terribly. We lost him in person 2 n half years back. Cherith was just 10 months old but still recollects a few somethings about his dadaji..
Me and hubby did not get to see our grandfathers. My grandmother left us when I was a little less than 2. I have heard a lot about her but they are just like stories that I could never be a part of.
I had always prayed that Cherith grows up taking lessons and learnings from his grandparents' experiences. That he would run to them when he won some competition at school. That they could be a part of grandparents day at school and see him perform for them.
I wished he had some real memories and happy incidents with his grandfather too.. I reckon how he used to call Cherith aloo since he was so fair..
In his last days, papa was severely ill and I used to stop cherith from going and disturbing him. He nevertheless crawled sneakily and went to his dadaji. He smiled everytime he saw the toddler crawl into his room and stand at his bedside making gestures asking him to hold him up. Cherith also ate what his dadaji ate, regardless that he was a patient, careless about the taste of the food.
It is indeed true that things and relationships changed tremendously after he left us and I am sure, these difficult years would have been a breeze had he been with us to guide and shade us.
We are visibly the unlucky lot in this aspect so all those who have grandparents at home, I request you to shower then with utmost love, care and respect. They are the ones who have time to spend time with our children.
They are the ones who contribute to the core of our children's character. They are the ones that make the garden of our homes bloom with the sunshine of warmth, water of love and occasional trimming of unwanted memories that might harm them. Stronger the roots, sweeter the fruits..
They are not the stepping stones of our lives, they are our foundation. A strong foundation makes for the strongest structures that can withstand all adversities head high...
Cheers..
God bless!!
CHS
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