All of us including me have got a good dose of everything about GST.. What it means, how it works, what are the slabs, how it is going to clear the complex systems and enable benefits and growth. News channels and newspaper are feeding us enough. I am not going to elaborate further.
Off late I have witnessed some things that I dislike happening close to me. A girl married for a couple of years has not had a baby and as usual become a matter of everybody's so called concern. "Mandir leke jao, pooja karao, doctor ko dikhao, tests karao." Everybody is ready with a question for her mother in law and a silent taunt for her.
That is not the problem. The actual problem is nobody cares to talk to her and find out what she thinks or feels. Its not that she can't have a baby. It is just a matter of the couple being ready for the big responsibility. Simple isn't it? But this simple thing is so complicated for our old ladies (and some of the younger lot) to understand that all they believe only some miracle can help.
It is always presumed that if there is any problem in the marriage, it might be the wife. If she is not having a baby, the lady is to be blamed. If their is a rift in the family, the daughter in law may be responsible. Husband behaves differently at home, might a female colleague. Undoubtedly reforms and changes have come but anti female notions continue to handicap mindsets.
The most disturbing idea that agonizes my soul is "ek ladka toh hona chahiye". I agree you would say that you have a liberal family and all that but I'm sure you would find one person somewhere around the mother of a girl child having this very thought. Take a test if you don't believe me. I am a living example...
I had a c section so I was well aware of what was happening on that operation table I dreaded. As soon as I heard the first cry of my baby, a tear rolled out and when I asked my doctor if it was a girl, she said its a boy and another tear rolled down my eyes. One was for the contentment that my child was safe (I had some complications) and the other was for it was Not a Girl!!
Even months later when people met Cherith, they were not happy that he was in good health or was a good learner but happier that he was a boy. One such aunty told me "Ek ladka ho gaya, ab aage jo bhi ho chalega" I could not resist asking her "Aunty ek ladki ho jaati toh??" "Na beta, ek ladka toh hona hi chahiye..." I walked off from the place. I just can not comprehend such opinions.
This is not a debate about the importance of the stronger sex, it is simply about the non significance of the gender that is the reason for the creation of us all, that too by the same gender. In my view, it is now time for GST! Girls Shatter Traditions!
Auntyjis.. First of all, our personal matters are none of your business. Second, why are you all so adamant on creating problems where none exist? Third and the most repeated request by people of my age; Please give advice only and only when asked for. Your uninvited worry not only disturbs us but also creates unnecessary nuisance. I also want to add a four; muster some courage and talk to the men and check if there is any problem that side.
Girls like me a screaming in their minds to all these women to just be a human. A real woman cares not curses, she would understand not underestimate, she would have a heart not hurt another, she would try to find the truth and help rather than spreading lies and creating hell. If you can not do anything of that sort, you are not to be called a woman. There is nothing wrong in telling you what you are doing is not encouraged.
We are not interested in becoming your pets. We do not aim to please you by doing things we do not believe in and We are not at all willing to enter your good books. Just let us be. Let us do things our way, live our lives hassle free. Yes we have problems and would want your guidance but only on the terms that you genuinely help and not create chaos. Your hurtful comments and nosy worries are so not welcome.
Thank You!
Cheers!
God Bless!!
CHS
Off late I have witnessed some things that I dislike happening close to me. A girl married for a couple of years has not had a baby and as usual become a matter of everybody's so called concern. "Mandir leke jao, pooja karao, doctor ko dikhao, tests karao." Everybody is ready with a question for her mother in law and a silent taunt for her.
That is not the problem. The actual problem is nobody cares to talk to her and find out what she thinks or feels. Its not that she can't have a baby. It is just a matter of the couple being ready for the big responsibility. Simple isn't it? But this simple thing is so complicated for our old ladies (and some of the younger lot) to understand that all they believe only some miracle can help.
It is always presumed that if there is any problem in the marriage, it might be the wife. If she is not having a baby, the lady is to be blamed. If their is a rift in the family, the daughter in law may be responsible. Husband behaves differently at home, might a female colleague. Undoubtedly reforms and changes have come but anti female notions continue to handicap mindsets.
The most disturbing idea that agonizes my soul is "ek ladka toh hona chahiye". I agree you would say that you have a liberal family and all that but I'm sure you would find one person somewhere around the mother of a girl child having this very thought. Take a test if you don't believe me. I am a living example...
I had a c section so I was well aware of what was happening on that operation table I dreaded. As soon as I heard the first cry of my baby, a tear rolled out and when I asked my doctor if it was a girl, she said its a boy and another tear rolled down my eyes. One was for the contentment that my child was safe (I had some complications) and the other was for it was Not a Girl!!
Even months later when people met Cherith, they were not happy that he was in good health or was a good learner but happier that he was a boy. One such aunty told me "Ek ladka ho gaya, ab aage jo bhi ho chalega" I could not resist asking her "Aunty ek ladki ho jaati toh??" "Na beta, ek ladka toh hona hi chahiye..." I walked off from the place. I just can not comprehend such opinions.
This is not a debate about the importance of the stronger sex, it is simply about the non significance of the gender that is the reason for the creation of us all, that too by the same gender. In my view, it is now time for GST! Girls Shatter Traditions!
Auntyjis.. First of all, our personal matters are none of your business. Second, why are you all so adamant on creating problems where none exist? Third and the most repeated request by people of my age; Please give advice only and only when asked for. Your uninvited worry not only disturbs us but also creates unnecessary nuisance. I also want to add a four; muster some courage and talk to the men and check if there is any problem that side.
Girls like me a screaming in their minds to all these women to just be a human. A real woman cares not curses, she would understand not underestimate, she would have a heart not hurt another, she would try to find the truth and help rather than spreading lies and creating hell. If you can not do anything of that sort, you are not to be called a woman. There is nothing wrong in telling you what you are doing is not encouraged.
We are not interested in becoming your pets. We do not aim to please you by doing things we do not believe in and We are not at all willing to enter your good books. Just let us be. Let us do things our way, live our lives hassle free. Yes we have problems and would want your guidance but only on the terms that you genuinely help and not create chaos. Your hurtful comments and nosy worries are so not welcome.
Thank You!
Cheers!
God Bless!!
CHS
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