Like all the Normal couples, me and hubby too have little arguments about nothing. I admit I start them but when he says or does something that hits my nerve, the plug in my head kind of fuses out. Usually the reason is his ignorance. For instance, I'm saying something and he either walks away listening or does not respond.
I'm sure we all have had these kind of things with parents/ siblings/ kids. But we get more hurt when it happens with our spouse. Yesterday was one such day. I was asking hubby something and he simply said "I don't know" and cut me. I was determined not to talk to him again. Later, he was having dinner and passed on some sweet he was having. I dint look at him. "kya hua?" he asked n I burst out "I was talking to you, cant you reply properly even once?" He made some faces and continued eating looking at the tv. My fuse was out!
Cherith went to sleep early at night and after that there was silence. He fiddled with my phone for a moment and gave it to me when he noticed I was staring the ceiling waiting for my phone. I took it, put on the earphones and got back to the movie that we both had left midway. I gestured to him if he wants to watch it (still no talk) and he put on his earphones (no response verbally either).
The movie resumed and after about 20 minutes I heard snores. He had slept and now my fuse was up for a short circuit. I simply pulled his earphones and continued watching. After the amazing movie was over, I looked at Cherith, sound asleep and gave him a kiss. I turned to hubby and he was sleeping like Cherith too. My heart went out to him. He works all day, may be having numerous issues to look at and deal with and why do I add on?
I always know that moments pass away quickly and I don't want to loose the ones I can spend with him. The arguments happen only when that fear of loosing out that time takes over my rational thinking. Looking at him now, sleeping like a child it seemed the most fulfilling thing. The best way to end my day watching my babies sleep in peace.
This morning however, I was on my chores and when he woke up I told him "Main kal jaa rahi hu" "Abhi pahucha du" he asked. "Uski zaroorat nahi" I was pretentious. "Aapne 15 bola tha, kal kyu? "Its 14!" I reminded. "Oh itni jaldi 14 ho gaya." he got up to take a shower. "Main wapas hi nahi aaungi. aap araam se rahiyega" I hit the last line to get into some pep talk with him. "Main lene aa jaunga, tension mat lo" he walked off leaving me smiling.
He never says anything really to get me angry, nor does he let my stupid irritation stay for long. He doesn't take me out often or does not bring gifts. Sometimes a chocolate, sometimes sweet words but the killer is his witty, humorous lines and I'm head over heels all over again! That's the real him, no make up, no lies, no flattery, just raw feelings that say "Be with me forever".
I try to motivate people but when I'm low, he is my inspiration. My positive thoughts come from him. My energy, my passion, my dreams have him in the lead. He is like this perfect masala for a tricky dish as me. Never lets me get and overdose of him so the boredom never creeps in. "Nazar lag jaayegi" he says when we are too happy. "You are not the best, but the best of the lot made available to me" I reply teasingly and it goes on...
I'm blessed to have him as my partner in crime, my perfect balance, my companion for life. I won't thank him (that might get to his head) but I thank God everyday for sparing him for me. The moments of our lives melt like an ice cream and I'm fortunate and blissful to be spending these melting moments with him.
Cheers!
God bless!!
Love...
CHS
I'm sure we all have had these kind of things with parents/ siblings/ kids. But we get more hurt when it happens with our spouse. Yesterday was one such day. I was asking hubby something and he simply said "I don't know" and cut me. I was determined not to talk to him again. Later, he was having dinner and passed on some sweet he was having. I dint look at him. "kya hua?" he asked n I burst out "I was talking to you, cant you reply properly even once?" He made some faces and continued eating looking at the tv. My fuse was out!
Cherith went to sleep early at night and after that there was silence. He fiddled with my phone for a moment and gave it to me when he noticed I was staring the ceiling waiting for my phone. I took it, put on the earphones and got back to the movie that we both had left midway. I gestured to him if he wants to watch it (still no talk) and he put on his earphones (no response verbally either).
The movie resumed and after about 20 minutes I heard snores. He had slept and now my fuse was up for a short circuit. I simply pulled his earphones and continued watching. After the amazing movie was over, I looked at Cherith, sound asleep and gave him a kiss. I turned to hubby and he was sleeping like Cherith too. My heart went out to him. He works all day, may be having numerous issues to look at and deal with and why do I add on?
I always know that moments pass away quickly and I don't want to loose the ones I can spend with him. The arguments happen only when that fear of loosing out that time takes over my rational thinking. Looking at him now, sleeping like a child it seemed the most fulfilling thing. The best way to end my day watching my babies sleep in peace.
This morning however, I was on my chores and when he woke up I told him "Main kal jaa rahi hu" "Abhi pahucha du" he asked. "Uski zaroorat nahi" I was pretentious. "Aapne 15 bola tha, kal kyu? "Its 14!" I reminded. "Oh itni jaldi 14 ho gaya." he got up to take a shower. "Main wapas hi nahi aaungi. aap araam se rahiyega" I hit the last line to get into some pep talk with him. "Main lene aa jaunga, tension mat lo" he walked off leaving me smiling.
He never says anything really to get me angry, nor does he let my stupid irritation stay for long. He doesn't take me out often or does not bring gifts. Sometimes a chocolate, sometimes sweet words but the killer is his witty, humorous lines and I'm head over heels all over again! That's the real him, no make up, no lies, no flattery, just raw feelings that say "Be with me forever".
I try to motivate people but when I'm low, he is my inspiration. My positive thoughts come from him. My energy, my passion, my dreams have him in the lead. He is like this perfect masala for a tricky dish as me. Never lets me get and overdose of him so the boredom never creeps in. "Nazar lag jaayegi" he says when we are too happy. "You are not the best, but the best of the lot made available to me" I reply teasingly and it goes on...
I'm blessed to have him as my partner in crime, my perfect balance, my companion for life. I won't thank him (that might get to his head) but I thank God everyday for sparing him for me. The moments of our lives melt like an ice cream and I'm fortunate and blissful to be spending these melting moments with him.
Cheers!
God bless!!
Love...
CHS
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