How it starts...

This is a spin off of the last one. Well I realized that the connection with OCD is way more far fetched in our lives as compared to the that of our older generations. It gave me a reason to write more..

First up, the obsession. Our generation seems to be the most gifted in terms of facilities. The more time passes by, the more easy it gets for us to get our hands on any kind of service, product and information. A click on the phone and an all new world is at our hands. This has also made us all get obsessed... Getting our favourite product, getting others views on our pictures, counting the likes, connecting to someone we really want to, always looking at the phone for an update. It is often an unreasonable idea or emotion but we slowly just give in.

Next, there is always a compulsion for us to do things a particular way, act in a certain style, keep our belongings in a particular fashion. The beginning is just normal but these turn into major abnormalities unseen on the outside and very much prevalent in our brains. It impacts our habits, thoughts and behaviour and the saddest part is that we continue to feel everything we are doing is alright.

I wont elaborate on the disorder part, but would sure urge you to think of it not as a disease but just a condition that can be rectified sooner and more easily than thought possible. You know what the solution is? Accepting change. The one thing that we know but we don't accept.

Whether it is a change brought by a daughter-in-law in the house (in a son) or the change by a new employee, be it a change triggered by someone's actions / thoughts/ ideas or changes in rules introduced by the government. All changes face protests (loudly and silently) We sure can not cover the larger aspects here but personally, it is a sure thing to do.

Why cant we simply let things be? Let us just accept to give up on cleanliness for a day and just enjoy being with a loved one. Can't we just forget about the messed wardrobe and enjoy some alone time. Go on and enjoy your kid playing in the mud, tidy him after he has had a blast. Soak your hands into colours and make something incomprehensible and laugh about it. Some old stuff may give you nostalgia, an embarrassing picture or situation may turn to become a hilarious memory. Why arrange everything perfectly at your home, in your room or at office always? Its ok not be punctual always.

Get out of your comfort zone and try something new once in a couple of months. You would love the experience whatever be the outcome. Experiment with your wardrobe and you'd still stay beautiful/handsome. Indulge yourself into trying new foods and let your taste buds have a ball. Do anything that is just not you and you will have a story to tell your future generations. There is no reason to get hysterical about things if they don't go your way.

And finally, I still recommend living with a few imperfections (like I am)

Cheers!!
God Bless!!


CHS

OCD...

I have been watching a lot of web series in free time. Very gripping and intriguing stuff on Youtube I must say. One such series was a story of the wife of a neurosurgeon. I wont go into the story now but will go straight away to what triggered my thoughts for this article.

Scene: The wife is cleaning the window pane when the hubby enters. "What are you busy with?" he asks. "Have been trying to remove this mark using everything possible but it doesn't seem to get cleaned." she says frustrated. "You know it is called OCD." he tries to divert her. He goes on, "You know what leads to this Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?" he waits for her to respond but she does not. "The person always feels that there is something that is not right in their lives and they keep correcting other things to make things as right as possible"

This was enough to get my mind machine to start working. I'm sure Sany, Bhai, Jiju and Hubby will smile while reading this but we have a long term connection with OCD. It runs in our blood as heredity. I am an OCD person myself. I am not sure about the others but it quite applies on me. There is something in the back of mind that does not seem right and I tend to correct other things which might not be really incorrect.

I slept with this thought and the next morning was stunned to realize that this condition would only worsen with time and age. Also I doubt I have unknowingly and unwantedly passed some of it to Cherith. It scares me when I think what he would be correcting. Given the fact that I now know, I must concentrate on helping myself. What is it that is not right with me? Well I can count 10 things per day. But is that truly the question to be asked?

With all the things I write about and all the thoughts I share, I am clear that nothing is perfect. No situation, no time, no person, no relationship. If it was so, where would be the scope for variety? No surprises, no shocks, no experiments, no adventure, no success, no failure, no learning, no growth, no day different than one another.. In short it would be a spiceless stagnant life and who loves a life like that? So now I have decided to sometimes alter things as per situations and get altered sometimes.

To all the OCD's like me, Stop and think what you are losing while correcting that which is least important. I know it is difficult to suddenly change our habits but it is way better than suffering with some very serious issues later in life. Take a look around and you will find everybody will be short of something (according to your parameters) To hell with the parameters, they don't make us what we are. Our struggles and experiences do.

Imperfections may not always be unpleasant. Trust me on that. I am living with one since a while...

Cheers!
God Bless!!

CHS