All of us know who Dennis is! Whenever I watched him I pitied him thinking Deedee was the one causing all his troubles. I used to pray that she got married soon and the poor fellow got to breathe air again. Long gone were the memories of that little genius scientist and I was suddenly reminded of him.
Its been a month and a half since hubby's nephew is here at home with us and I must confess what a menace he is!! He would want the best to eat (leaving nothing for the rest). He would play when ever he likes, caring a damn about whether the one he plays with is ill or unwell. He wants to wear four pair of clothes in a day irrespective of the hands that wash them and his trumpcard is the havoc he creates with all the screeches that roar from his throat and the invisible tears that he sheds when he doesn't have things his way. From hitting and kicking to shouting and foul words (of his age) he does it all so well I have come to believe to be living with a menace myself. Only that its not Deedee but Dennis himself!!
Its been easy and adoring to be with kids all this while but for the experiences with a thoroughly spoilt brat that makes my life more than difficult. To add on, this one's at the in laws, so you can't do a mission straightening tedha kid here. You try and you get replies such as "Nadaan baccha hai" "Humne aaj tak ispe haath nahi uthaya" "Bacche ko rone mat do" and the likes.
I understand that kids are naive, naughty, greedy and careless. I also understand the love grandparents have for their grandchildren but whether it is the oldies or parents, we should not forget what our deeds are teaching our kids. You bring a child everything he wants and he knows it that he will have his way come what may. You never tell him what he has done is wrong and he will never know what right is. You let him eat what he likes and leave things half eaten, he will never know the value of food or money. You don't keep time for him to study he will never give importance to education.
The problem here is that we know these things are significant, yet we say "Baad mein seekh jaayega" but we should not forget that good things and habits can be cultivated at tender ages and that's how they go with us through life. Once the stage passes, learning and inculcating them is much difficult. That's why kids who are at least told about these things are well behaved and disciplined and parents are proud to introduce them to others. Also, while there the credit for a good kid goes to all the elders, the demerit for a kid to be ill mannered goes to the mother alone. I am of the opinion that moms and dads are equally responsible and so should be the credit and demerit.
Having said all of this, I am going to make sure my kids don't turn out to be a menace (Whenever I have them). For now, the forum is open inviting suggestions for me to deal with the current Dennis of my age. Looking forward for your comments and advises!!
Cheers!!
God bless all those who have naughty kids around!
CHS
Its been a month and a half since hubby's nephew is here at home with us and I must confess what a menace he is!! He would want the best to eat (leaving nothing for the rest). He would play when ever he likes, caring a damn about whether the one he plays with is ill or unwell. He wants to wear four pair of clothes in a day irrespective of the hands that wash them and his trumpcard is the havoc he creates with all the screeches that roar from his throat and the invisible tears that he sheds when he doesn't have things his way. From hitting and kicking to shouting and foul words (of his age) he does it all so well I have come to believe to be living with a menace myself. Only that its not Deedee but Dennis himself!!
Its been easy and adoring to be with kids all this while but for the experiences with a thoroughly spoilt brat that makes my life more than difficult. To add on, this one's at the in laws, so you can't do a mission straightening tedha kid here. You try and you get replies such as "Nadaan baccha hai" "Humne aaj tak ispe haath nahi uthaya" "Bacche ko rone mat do" and the likes.
I understand that kids are naive, naughty, greedy and careless. I also understand the love grandparents have for their grandchildren but whether it is the oldies or parents, we should not forget what our deeds are teaching our kids. You bring a child everything he wants and he knows it that he will have his way come what may. You never tell him what he has done is wrong and he will never know what right is. You let him eat what he likes and leave things half eaten, he will never know the value of food or money. You don't keep time for him to study he will never give importance to education.
The problem here is that we know these things are significant, yet we say "Baad mein seekh jaayega" but we should not forget that good things and habits can be cultivated at tender ages and that's how they go with us through life. Once the stage passes, learning and inculcating them is much difficult. That's why kids who are at least told about these things are well behaved and disciplined and parents are proud to introduce them to others. Also, while there the credit for a good kid goes to all the elders, the demerit for a kid to be ill mannered goes to the mother alone. I am of the opinion that moms and dads are equally responsible and so should be the credit and demerit.
Having said all of this, I am going to make sure my kids don't turn out to be a menace (Whenever I have them). For now, the forum is open inviting suggestions for me to deal with the current Dennis of my age. Looking forward for your comments and advises!!
Cheers!!
God bless all those who have naughty kids around!
CHS
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