Why Marry??....

A lot of us who are married very frequently give in to a little stress and influences and quote things like "Why did I marry?" "I was happy single"  "Marriage looks good from a distance".. Well, we know we don't mean all that and those who aren't married please don't take any of it seriously because you will have your versions too...

The fact is that marriage not only gives you a new set of challenges but along with it a companion for life to win over the challenges. How do you know you have made the right choice? The answer should come from within. An answer that depicts sincere conviction.. The best example is the one who writes this...

I blindly but determinedly married a friend knowing that I would at least have a friend at every stage of life. What I dint know was that I chose the best man possible. He understands and cares for me without taking away my space. He doesn't mind teaching me ways of his family but never forces me to do anything that I am not comfortable with. He realizes that I have left my family and walked into his and respects my desicion. He listens to me without bias and ensures we arrive at decisions mutually.

The first conversation I had with him after our wedding was the time I cried the most ( For having left my family) and when he held my hand all he said was "I'm with you, please don't cry I'll take you to meet them whenever you want to meet them" and that made me smile....

He soothes my soul, makes me smile, do crazy things, ensures my security, loves me deeply and most of all doesn't treat me like a typical wife. He values our relationship and me equally and tries best to fulfil all the promises he made at the matrimonial ceremony. You may say it is my good luck and all are not so blessed but trust me, we just need to listen to our hearts and give it a try.

You will come to believe that Someone Somewhere is Made for You...

Dedicated to Janaab..

The one exclusively made for me...

Cheers!!
God Bless!!

CHS

Mother INDIA...??

We worship her in temples, fold hands in front of her and offer garlands to her. We are protected in her womb before birth, get nutrition from her milk and get love blessings from her all our lives no  matter how we treat her. All of us know our mother deserves respect then how dare we forget the role of a woman in our lives and her never ending unconditional favours..?

We promote our country, celebrate national festivals, cheer our national team screaming aloud "Bhaarath Maata ki Jai" but we hail her only in words... Crime against women has been on the rise be it female foeticide, violence or torture. Harrasment and rapes have now become just another part of news and our lives but worse is the intensity of the crime which has been inflating.

One Aruna is left lifeless since forty years & is still nursed by strangers. One Nirbhaya dies fighting for her life even after being brutalized & is supported by the whole nation. One five year old Gudiya's soul leaves her body after experiencing the most demonous inhuman behaviour.

Women are constantly blamed to be dressed provocatively and being out of their homes after dusk. What would those "Protectors of women's interest" say after this animosity with Gudiya? The little girl would have just started enjoying her childhood. She would have barely known what it is to be a girl and I am ashamed to say that she was introduced to feminity in a manner that I dont have words to comprehend.

These victims only want to live. Every woman has a right to freedom but unfortunately she is being denied her basic right to live. How can someone not see a mother, wife, friend, sister or daughter in a female? In all forms, she is entitled to respect and care and not animosity!

After thousands of such reported and more unreported incidents, our law still gives liberty to the criminals to walk about freely and all our honourable country heads have to say is "Change Your Attitude". To add on TOI held an article in which an association gives directives to women travellers in India. 'Dont wear short skirts, Dont hold hands or show affection in public, Dont share a meal, Dont drink from the same glass'. Well I guess they want women to become untouchables!!

Our civilization is anyway taking a U turn as we witness people behaving more "Junglee" than those from the stone age. In that case, I dont see the day quite far when we would prefer making our laws and punishing criminals all by ourselves to protect our dear ones because apraadhik maansikta wale asaamaajik tatvo ke liye yahan koi jagah nahi hai.

Rest in Peace..
                       Nirbhaya, Gudiya....

Stay Strong and Safe
God Bless

Chandra Daga

The School...

I was pretty jobless one morning a few days back and happened to look out of the window. The street was bustling with kids moving towards a school located a few feet away. Neatly dressed with bags on their backs, lunch bags in hands, some kids walked briskly with confidence.. Some tumbled hesitantly and some ran enthusiastically...

A boy called aloud for a motorist (possibly his dad) who stopped after which the kid ran towards him. He murmured something into his ear panting and the motorist rode away after placing a coin on the boy's palm. The boy happily ran towards a small shop nearby, took a candy and joyously hurried towards school... The others who walked lazily ran after hearing the bell go off... All of us may have experienced these little things during school days, the Golden Days..

Then, a penny would buy us all the happiness, now, even millions seem less. Then, mistakes could be erased and rectified, now, people do not even admit to have committed a mistake and blame everyone else for the loss. Then, fights happened and got over quickly, now, fights start but don't seem to end. Then, we shared classes, benches and lunch boxes with everyone, now, we seem to have been divided by every possible difference (caste, religion, nationality). Then, all of us were students, friends, now, people hardly treat other people as humans...

If given a chance, all of us would trade anything to go back and live the innocent and worry - free school life but since that can't literally happen, lets make our memories more cherish able...

Lets relieve our kids from the pressure of performing well, too much homework and projects. Let us help them inculcate the habit of helping. Lets get them interested in at least one sport. Let us teach them the value of giving and earning respect. Lets lead them to a life that involves healthy eating and no cheating. Let their curiosity be their teacher. Let them enjoy their childhood to the fullest and let us treasure ours seeing them...

Someone has wisely said "Children are great imitators. So give them something great to imitate."

Cheers!!
God Bless!!


Chandra Daga

New Year

All of us await the new year with lot of expectations.. It was a special case in 2012..

However, 2013 started with a couple of bad newses rather than good.
Nonetheless, the whole year has to go by and we can still wish for better things to come our way... There are a few particulars to my list though.

At the onset, I wish there are no more rumors about the world ending. More than anything else, it will only cause us to commit more mistakes thinking the world is going to end.

The Delhi tragedy has brought to light not only the vulnerability of people but also exposed the insensate and lethargic behavior of the police (our so called protectors) and the bureaucrats (our so called leaders). I only hope we have a strict law in place very soon which intends to protecting lives and preventing crimes.

We've all experienced great zeal while watching India play against any other cricket team. Many of us don't seem interested in other sports as a result of lack of knowledge. I wish we give a little more attention and respect to our national game. In fact I wish we hear more about basketball, soccer and hockey from kids of our generation. We may get some insight to other games from them at least..

All of us wish for our ministers to actually work for us. I wish there are more like Mr. Modi whose changed the destiny of Gujarat. If not new, at least the existing ones can take lessons from him which could make our country a better place..

I wish we all become spiritual. Not that we visit religious places with offerings that our Gods don't even need, but lets just not go by what a few men say and care about living humans. Lets do good deeds, feed the hungry, give clothes to the needy and help the ones in trouble. I don't know if that would unite us with God but it'll sure take us closer to the humanity that seems long forgotten. 

I wish we become more responsible in handling our resources, care more for our environment and people around us and avoid damage to our own selves. In the end, I wish we all observe kids more closely and take their attributes of being naive, pure hearted, free of hatred, greed and envy, learn to forgive quickly and forget easily.

Wish for more laughs and smiles than tears and fears in this year and the coming ones... 
Wishing all readers a very happy and prosperous new year!!

Cheers!!
God Bless!!


Chandra Daga